Each week I receive letters from readers of my
daily work-at-home ezine pleading for help in
finding a telecommuting position. Sometimes,
a special-needs child or an aging parent necessitates
being at home full time. Often times, though, I hear from
moms (and occasional dads) who are suffering from
'working mother's guilt' and just want to work from home
to be able to spend more time with their family.
They feel as though they are depriving their kids of
quality parenting by their daily absence while at work.
Guilt follows them throughout the day at the
office. Dinner and chores leave very little weekday
While I certainly can identify and have empathy for their
situations, I try to remind then that it's the quality of time,
not quantity, spent with their family that truly matters.
The age-old working mom vs. the stay-at-home mom debate
only serves to amplify their feelings. Are my kids better
adjusted and happier because I work at home than those
whose moms work at outside jobs? I think not. Granted,
it's wonderful to have the opportunity to be here when my
kids arrive home from school and the flexibility to attend
daytime school functions. However, I think I benefit more from my
being home than my kids at times. When they were younger,
they would express envy at their friends who were "lucky"
to stay after school at latchkey and do neat art projects;
friends whose sitters did fun activities with them while they
complained that all I ever did was stay home and work.
Proving that the grass is greener on the other side. Don't beat
yourself up while searching for a work-at-home job. Take pride
and satisfaction that you're setting an example that today's
mom can have both a career and a family -successfully.
With patience and tenacity, you will land that perfect
telecommuting job; but until that day rest assured that
you are doing what is right for you and your family.
Barb Niehaus, webmaster and publisher of Moms@
Home Working is committed to helping those moms
seeking the "perfect balance between work and family".
To receive daily WAH job listings at no cost, mailto:
Visit her website at: http://www.moms-home-work.com
Submitted by: Barb Niehaus *
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