Add Articles New Articles Best Articles Search Articles

help, Support, Kids, Children, Dating, Parenting alone, Need Help!

Table of Contents : What's New : What's Hot
Shopping Mall : Directory : Personal Ads
SPN Newsletter

single parent network for single parent supportsingle parent newslettersingle parents love and match makingarticles and resourcefull read for single parentssingle parent chat and friendssingle parent discount and save moneysingle parent supportive and helpful communitysingle parents network donationssingle parent private mail to keep parents safesingle parent search for other single parent stuff

Top : Love and Romance : Dating as a Single Parent

Advance Search

Dating as a Single Parent

What are the qualities that a single parent should look for in someone they are deciding to date?

1. Playful, light and fun with kids. (Kids have an innate instinct about people. Watch

2. Doesn't try to make the kids like activities they "should" like. Will accept a child's declining to participate in an activity that he/she likes. Open to learning about your child's activities and interests.

3. Doesn't try to discipline kids. Setting rules, boundaries and giving consequences needs to be done by the biological parent.

4. Not jealous if you need to put the children first or when they need your attention. Childhood goes by very quickly. Give you children the attention they need. Help with homework, the chance to talk about their day, etc.

5. Willing to be introduced into the lives of the kids slowly.

6. Will accept your boundaries about how much affection you are comfortable with expressing in front of your kids, and at what pace. Progress slowly in the relationship, at least in front of your children.

7. Speaks to children respectfully but not patronizingly. Speaks to them in age-appropriate ways about topics of interest to kids not just to him/her. Never uses degrading or belittling language. Never calls anyone derogatory names.

8. Doesn't want to exclusively do activities with children or only activities in which kids are excluded. A healthy relationship has a mix of adult-only and child-included activities.

9. Doesn't scold, lecture or "should" you about how you interact with the children's other parent.

10. Is patient when children express jealous and interfering behaviors.

11. Sees you as a competent adult and a devoted parent.

12. Understands all kids are different. Doesn't compare your kids with his/her kids (or kids seen on TV!).

13. Able to be flexible with the unexpected and roll with the unplanned events that always seem to arise in a household with children.

14. Is there to hold you when you are missing your kids. Doesn't try to talk you out of how you feel or rationalize away your sadness.

15. Understands that kids do grow up and that life-partners are together long after the kids have left home.

16. Willing to model respect and adoration for you in front of your children. It is good for kids to see their parent treated well by another adult.

17. Able to have open and non-defensive conversations about how you feel and what you want about your relationship and your children.

18. Willing to participate in family established rituals such as birthdays, holidays, etc.

19. Does not use alcohol to excess or drugs.

20. Able to apologize and model asking for forgiveness when he/she makes a mistake. Able to easily and quickly forgive when asked for forgiveness.

For further information on this topic you can read:

365 Positive Strategies for Single Parenting
By Susan B. Brown, Monica Simmons

1998 Dr. Lois V. Nightingale, Clinical Psychologist and director of the Nightingale Center in Yorba Linda, Ca. Author of My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They're Getting Divorced. 714-993-5343

Submitted by: Dr Lois Nightingale *

16-Apr-2003 Hits: 604 Rating: 8.00 Votes: 2 Rate It

Return back to your last page ?

Add Articles New Articles Best Articles Search Articles

Copyright 1998-2010 Single Parents Network. All rights reserved.
Legal disclaimer - Copyright Policy
Our Standards